As I reflect on 2017 I’m looking forward to what 2018 will bring. I’m beyond honored to have welcomed new clients as well as continue to support some who have been with me since the start (September 2013 to be exact). What I’ve noticed this year is a deeper understanding of the complexities of grief. Grief has been one of my specialties – one of those topics I’ve always been comfortable thinking about and in my adult years have pursued looking at how to talk about when my own personal grief shook the very ground I was walking on. I find the research on healing and trauma fascinating and continue to learn about the neuroscience behind this work (which I fell in love with as I completed my last stent in school).
This last year I put on my first Young Women’s Empowerment Class where I introduced gratitude jars, vision boards, and journaling as ways to pay attention to hopes and dreams, as well as barriers and challenges that get in the way of those very same hopes and dreams. In February 2018 I’m putting on my first Young Women’s Retreat which will incorporate some of those same ideas however in a different setting~ at the coast in a cozy house where I find healing comes more naturally with the ocean air, the sound of the waves, the quiet, music, creations, and a whole lot of laughing.
So thank you, to everyone walking alongside me as we journey through this thing called life.
Today marks the 4th year my private practice has been open! I thank all my current and past clients for walking this journey with me as well as the support of family, friends, and colleagues for trusting and referring clients to me. It is with deep honor that I do this work and a great privilege to walk alongside the many lives that have intertwined with mine.
Summer is in full swing and things at Ignite are going well. The Young Women’s Empowerment Class completed last month and they liked it so much we are going to continue monthly check ins! I’m hoping there will be more interest in this class to start a new one this fall. Here are our final vision boards:
I’ve welcomed some new clients recently who are looking for support as they transition out of unhealthy relationships, as well as some couples who are trying to find healthier ways to communicate. Stress can impact our relationships, how we communicate, as well as how we make progress towards our goals. Self-care is a must as we manage day to day responsibilities as well as find ways to address the grief and loss in our lives.
One of my favorite subjects is gratitude. Finding ways to pay attention to what we have rather than what is missing can really make a difference in our frame of mind. Gratitude jars were a hit in my class as well as many of my clients are tracking gratitude in their journals. Right now I have a couple more spots open for new clients; I hope that if you or someone you know could benefit from counseling or a life coach that you will contact me!
Excited to announce a new class I’m providing! Have you ever wanted to create a vision board?
Do you know a young woman who has dreams & goals she would like support with? Does she wish she knew more young women who could support her in meeting her goals? Let’s talk about it! Starting April 1st through 5/13/17 this young women’s class (ages 18 to 24) will meet Saturdays from 4:00pm to 5:30pm at 696 Country Club Rd, Eugene, OR. Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or call/text 541.870.2904 for more details.
A few clients and some friends have been going through some tough break ups recently. Break ups can be very difficult when tensions are high, emotions are raw, and they can be complicated more when couples have been living together as well. It is important to be patient with yourself as well as to utilize supports.
Here are some things to consider doing for yourself as you go through this transition:
1. Journal: Write down your feelings, experiences, and don’t hold back.
2. Listen to music- find music that speaks to your heart!
3. Lean on your friends and family; tell them what will be helpful in supporting you.
4. Stay active- staying in may feel easier and
5. Separate yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally from the person. Disconnect from them on social media.
6. Take time for yourself. A quiet book, a soak in the bath tub, a walk in the park? Taking time to reflect can be very beneficial.
7. Pet therapy – animals can be a great way to receive physical affection and can help keep you in the moment.
8. See a counselor- find someone to talk this out with. The benefits of using a third party is that you can get perspective from someone not attached to your ex. This person can also help you grieve your relationship, set new goals, and provide a safe environment to share what is on your heart and mind.
9. Try something new. This can help you focus on something exciting and challenging in your life.
Pay attention to your body and give yourself time to heal. Know that you are processing a loss which can impact your life in numerous ways and staying in tune with this can help as you rediscover this new chapter in your life.
I was meeting with a client this week talking about the struggle of saying no.So many of us, wanting to be people pleasers worry about the repercussions of saying no.I challenged my client to think about how saying no might actually be saying yes.Here are some thoughts about how this might be the case:
It can free up time to allow for self-care.
It may allow us to spend more time doing other things that take priority or that have been hanging over our head.
It can allow us to be more present in our lives for the things we have already said yes to.
Maybe by you saying no this allows someone else an opportunity to say yes?
Perhaps saying no to one opportunity actually allows for time to commit to something else.
Recently I’ve reminded myself to take pause before saying yes/no.This allows me time to be thorough and thoughtful in my decision making. If you find yourself still struggling with how to proceed, you might consider what the three most important values/priorities in your life right now.If this new opportunity does not somehow feed into one of those perhaps it is not the time to take this on.If it does align with one of those values then maybe there is something else that you are involved in that you can let go of so that you can more easily say yes?
It is so important to pay attention to what we are involved in from day to day so that we do not become stressed, overwhelmed, resentful, and unhappy in our lives.Please feel free to share with me how saying no is saying yes in your life right now!